Serenity Point Hospice, LLC.

762 East Chestnut
Canton, IL 61520

CHAP Accredited
Serenity Point Hospice, LLC.

When Quality Care & Peace
Of Mind Matter Most

Phone: 309-435-7050
Fax: (844) 813-1772

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Grief Support Group - Finding Serenity

Grief Support Group - Finding SerenityWelcome

When life feels out of control and your heart is aching, “Finding Serenity Grief Support Group” helps you find spiritual peace, strength, and encouragement while celebrating life's journey.

At Serenity Point Hospice we provide a number of practical activities which are useful to people in grief. There are tools for putting your thoughts in writing, strengthening and making use of your own supportive network of people, and handling difficult times such as anniversaries and holidays.

Serenity Point Hospice has a community based Grief support group in Fulton County, IL “Finding Serenity” that meets every Wednesday at 4:00pm at the Evangelical Free Church located at 1300 E Chestnut in Canton, IL. Please call our office at 309-435-7050 for more information. It is a free service provided by Serenity Point Hospice and is open to the public.

Anticipatory Grief

Although we think of grief as something that happens after a death, it often begins long before death arrives. It can start as soon as we become aware that death is a likelihood. Once death is on the horizon, even just as a possibility, it is natural that we begin to grieve.

Though this is different than the grief that follows a death, anticipatory grief can carry many of the symptoms of regular grief – sadness, anger, isolation, forgetfulness, and depression. These complicated emotions are often coupled with the exhaustion that comes with being a caregiver or the stress of being left alone when someone goes to war or is battling addiction. We are aware of the looming death and accepting it will come, which can bring an overwhelming anxiety and dread. More than that, in advance of a death we grieve the loss of the person’s abilities and independence, their loss of cognition, a loss of hope, loss of future dreams, loss of stability and security, loss of their identity and our own, and countless other losses. This grief is not just about accepting the future death, but of the many losses already occurring as an illness progresses.

Serenity Point Hospice Grief Support Group - Finding SerenityWhen we know a death is imminent our bodies are often in a state of hyper-alertness – we panic whenever the phone rings, an ambulance must be called, or when our loved one deteriorates. This can become mentally and physically exhausting. The same is true of watching a loved one suffer, which is almost always part of a prolonged illness. Caring for them as they suffer takes an emotional toll on us. These things (and others) can contribute to a sense of relief when the death eventually comes, and a guilt that can come with that relief. These feelings are common and totally normal when someone has experienced an anticipated death. And yet we feel guilty for this relief, thinking it diminishes our love for the person. It doesn’t, of course, but this relief can be a confusing feeling. We sometimes need to consciously remind ourselves that the relief does not change the deep love we had for the person, rather it is a natural reaction to the illness.

There have been numerous studies showing that anticipatory grief can reduce the symptoms of grief after a death but, as always with grief, there are no rules. There will be times that anticipatory grief may reduce the intensity of grief following a loss, then there are many times that the grief following a death is not impacted at all. What is important to keep in mind is that if you are grieving with less intensity or for shorter duration than other losses because of the anticipatory grief you experienced before the death, that is totally normal! On the flip side, if you do not feel your grief is diminished despite it being an anticipated death, that is totally normal too! Convenient, eh? There is no formula for how an anticipated loss will impact us because we all grieve differently.


Things to Remember When Dealing with Anticipatory Grief

Accept that anticipatory grief is normal. You are normal and feeling grief before a death is normal. You are allowed to feel this type of grief. Seriously. This is a common phenomenon that has been documented for nearly a century. You are not alone!